Recent gang rape
aroused so much of a gender war in our nation, though I fully condemn that brutal,
heinous crime by some men. They let everyone of us down, as a nation we feel ashamed
of such acts happening in our nation. Protests are genuine and strong demand
for new laws and speedy trials of cases are all very important at this point of
time.
Though a lot has
been said about men and women , news channels are full of debates on this
gender discrimination but what surprised me the most or say wat saddened
me is the way whole male fraternity is
condemned….slogans like “ teach your son how to behave” or “ men disrespect
women” “ women are not slaves “ and all are not at all appealable to me… why
the hell we are saying it for every men…I totally agree that we have crores of cases where women were being harassed and
threatened by men but still I will say every men is not the same, we also have
brothers and fathers at home who also comes in the same fraternity……I am amazed
to hear from young girls that “ye sabhi ladke aise hi hote hai” “hum
inke gulam nahi hai” n all…..who the hell told us that we the women are slaves of anybody?
Why the hell we have made so much of chaos over this male n female
issue? The image that’s been going out from our recnts debates is making a very
wrong impact in the mind of girls……believe me
we are not someone who should try to be as equal to men……..why we need
to…..see as a women I dnt think anytym in my life I felt that I should be a men
or I am inferior or anything,,,,,,,we are women and we are proud of
that,,,,,,,men and women are two separate identities and it will be unfair for
either one to emulate the other one……men can never be women n women can never
be men…. infact I strongly go with the
quote that says “women who strive to be equal to men lose their ambition”
Society is made up
of both the genders,,no one can survive without other. Both require each other
for a happy balanced life…every religion has accepted the institution of
marriage as a strongest pillar. We call couples two bodies one soul…. N I
believe that from every human being there rises a light that reaches straight
to heaven and when two souls that are destined to be together find each other,
the streams of light flow together and a single brighter light goes forth from
that united being.
I get scared to
just think of the kind of mentality we are growing in our children,,,so much
hatred for the opposite sex....men need
to understand that women wants to be loved not raped…without women no
men can survive, they are your partners not your slave, so as women, we need to
understand that not every men is same.
We need love more
than this hatred for each other.. from the past so many days I am hearing so
many opinons of both the sexes for each other,,,,some says women are destined
to be a housewife , she should cook , wash clothes n do household wrk whereas
men are
destined to work ,to look after his wife and family…..i just don’t
understand the basic mentality behind such talks……. It seems there is a scorecard
for both husband and wife……when will we understand that in relationships there
is no scorecard ,we do little things for each other to make the other’s life
easier. If I cook ,or do laundry for family its not because its my work but
because of love I do it all , similarly if a husband take his wife for
shopping, of if he drive for her its not coz its his job but because he loves
her. They do all such things for each other in order to make other’s life
easier ……..I always believe if you think of all such work as a helping the
person you love ,you don’t become annoyed with doing the laundry or cookin or
any task, because you are doing it out of love.
Its just make me
sad whenever I hear from young girls like why will I cook or do laundry? Cant
the guy do it? Or young men saying…cooking food or ironing is not my wtk, grl
will do it……dnt knw how n when our daily work divided into this gender game……its
just love that matters……no one is high and no one is low...both the sexes are
equal and one can’t emulate other,….there is no competition,,,,,, there should be
no hatred,it’s just love that need to be shared …….give respect to each other
and kindly think differently. Change
your orthodox mentality and that fake pride of being a boy or girl…..we are
here to live together , we have to move together in life with hand in hand and
love in our heart <3 o:p="o:p">
Here’s my wish for
all of us
May god bring us
together in heart and mind as well as body,
Remove from us the
temptation to criticize or be cruel
May we not be tempeted
by fantasises and projections
May god guide us
in the ways of holiness and save us from darkness.
Love
Kiran
Too good.. keep on writing..... ur write up seems like a breath of fresh air in suffocated surroundings of hatred......
ReplyDeletethanks sir.it means a lot
Deletei was waiting to hear such a mature side on this topic for sometym now....thanks to u u have said it wht others cudnt.......i have been hearing all kinda suggestions and demands from the so called general public......even unimaginable n filthy remarks aswell on TV......yes i cud undstd their anger....but its sad tht our general public seems like they have been waiting for long to be angry on somebody...to be angry abt something......n luks like this is the first thing tht came along......ppl are talking or presenting their views without thinking for a wee bit......One thing tht has caught my eye was tht most people have been asking for death penalty for the rape convicts.....i believe yes thats a fitting punishment for morons who try n rape the modesty of our sisters.......I wud have loved to see it made as a law in other countries like in the middle east or China for example , but in a so called democratic country like ours ....make no doubt abt it.... these kinda laws will be bend to send innocents to the gallows and used to terrorise gud guys rather than serve its purpose tht is to stop us from these henious doing such crimes.......one such law that ive seen being misuse
ReplyDeleted is the one for dowry harrasement...i know this bcoz a freind of mine had described to me abt what happened to him. This law states that a wife just needs to register a complaint with the police stating dowry harrasement.....and the husband and his family are put into jail without possibility of bail.......my freinds wife didnt want to stay with him for no reason...basically she was a v young girl...(arranged mairrage)..she didnt want to be married thts all...hence went and wrote a police complaint.....poor chap had ...a pretty nice guy as ive known him for a long long tym ,had to go thru hell for it.......after around 3-4years of divorce proceedings he won the case ...got divorced....but can u imagine how much trauma he had n his family had to go thru bcoz of this law being made so powerful and its victims (genuine or innocent) so helpless.
Instead we shud educate our children the right manner......remember the "moral science" class from school..... tht needs to be more toughening more heart touching....n we need to address heavy issues like these , which normally our teachers or parents (read society) dread from touching.......those need to be taught to the kids first...we need to teach our kids in what society we live in and how to respect and take care of the world around us.....All this reminds me of tht gr8 saying from the famous Hollywood movie that..... "WITH GREAT POWERS COME GREAT RESPONSIBILITIES".....If u empower the law to such great extents also be very sure first that it will be responsibily used or else who knows not far from today we'd soon have thousands of innocent brothers and husbands being hanged while the actual culprits bask in the sun.....ask for a LAW only if u r damn sure that it will be executed in the proper manner its supposed to be.....keeping the history of law enforcement in India i have my doubts abt it....Examples r right in front of u....when the whole country wanted to implement LokPal bill.....did we get it done.....if such an important bill cant be passed....such a lovely constitution we have but tht has been enforced in such a manner tht it feeds corruption and the richer gets richer and the poor gets poorer.....Sad but thts the truth....But Kudos to u gal....for touching this topic n executing it so well......Cheers gal...!!
Ever heard martial art gurus teach their disciples tht they shudnt fight in anger as they might get hurt themselves nor win.......thts exactly what we need to do here...be effective in thinking and demanding tht change but not by being so angry tht we loose our cool and take or influence wrong decisions.
dats true shinzi....n thanks for liking the blog, ur comments always boost up my energy,,,,,:-) Thank u
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