For the one in my memory

There are moments when something very much unexpected happens in your life, something that you have never even imagined, something that halts your life for minutes and you need time to get out of that shock.

Death comes by two ways. One is when you have no control over it, it happens mostly because of illness, accidents or by some genuine natural way but the second one is when you yourself choose to take away your life…… The most harsh and daunting decision of one’s life- and of course the most difficult one too.. I don’t have a slightest of idea as like what might have been the reasons behind such suicides, what exactly went on person’s mind the moment they plan to execute it??  But whatever it may be… steps like this should never be taken in any way…

I am dedicating this blog to all the girls and boys of my age and most importantly this blog is in remembrance to one of the finest girls I have met in my life,  she was nice, smart, lovable, decent, sensible , patient , beautiful , jovial and so on. I have never seen any flaw in her, always loving and caring who got married just a few months back and who left us just a day before.

Marriage is a beautiful institution where two people join hands and choose to stay together all their lives. For me it’s the most sacred relationship where  two people surrender themselves to one another,  both come into relationship with thousands of dreams in eyes , so many aspirations and love. It’s the most difficult as well as the most important decision of one’s life to choose someone who can complete him/her.

Acc to me the full meaning of marital commitment is being the most important person to someone and having someone as your most important person. Most of us always want our lives to be cherished and funny as it has always been when we were single, we expect the same thing when we get mingle but the moment that very special person of our life starts caring, asking or demands time from us, that very relationship starts pinching us down. Don’t take me wrong but I guess there are a 50% couples who comes in relationship without even has a slightest of idea that being in the relationship means, sharing your life with someone else.  And by sharing I mean, sharing of our time, our family, our love and everything.  Everyone wants love but no one wants the responsibilities attached to it. Marriage is a responsibility towards each other, when we get committed to someone, we need to understand that from now on that person is a part of our life, and directly or indirectly every act of ours will affect our partner’s life so we can’t think only for our self .  In relationships we are no longer a single bird, we are paired and hence we have to think in that way.

I just have one thing to say to everyone out here that please don’t marry until you are not ready to accept the responsibilities attached with marriage, don’t spoil anyone’s life just for a few minutes of pleasure or for your parent’s happiness. Marry only when you are ready to commit yourself to one single soul and are ready to share everything with him/ her, otherwise be single and enjoy as much as you want in your own way. No one will interfere in your life if you don’t wish to. If you are fully ready to accept someone’s presence in your life then only commit yourself . Everyone is someone’s dream and hence if she/he is not the one of your dreams, then might be there is someone at other side who desperately waits n wants him/her.

This one  is  for boys, that remember a girl leaves her home and enters your home just with a faith that you will be there to look her up. I have my own brother unmarried, cousin going to get married next month, it’s for every male who is in my life in any form, brothers, friends or anyone, no matter how harsh may a situation gets, no matter how wrong your partner gets, tell her she is wrong, show your anger but still support her, be with her because you are the only one she is most intimate with, she trust u more than anyone in this world.

Life waits for no one, it's just go on and on, people become memories and we move on with our respective lives.

May God give us the patience; tolerance and understanding to run our lives in a smoother way. May we be blessed with this hard core fact of life that no matter how much we fly, roam , hurt, love , ditch , betrays someone during our good young days but ultimately in the end everything fades and then you will realize how important it is for us to have that most important person in our life.

As I was discussing with a friend of mine today that what matters in life is not our partner’s property, position or beauty but it’s always his/ her nature and good will that counts the most.

With love to all and especially to that beautiful jovial lady with whom I spent a lovely good time during my commuting hours.

You will always be remembered but I just wish, May u faced it in a more courageous way!!!!

Love

Kiran Bhardwaj

happiness

Aristotle once wrote that “happiness is a state of activity” in other words whether we are seeking lifelong satisfaction or a few moments of good cheer, we have got to move forward..

In a daily chit chat with my colleague in college bus, she asked ,” what constitutes happiness?  The thing which makes us happy some time back doesn’t give happiness to us now? Priorities change so as circumstances’? Well indeed she was right and was asking some very valid question’s, because we humans are like that only,  our happiness is never limited to certain things….it keeps on changing.

What can makes everyone happy? Is it money? Property? Different partners?  Solitude or what?? Sometimes my mind says if I will have it  ,I will be the happiest one, but then after attaining that certain goal, more new wishes and goals comes in between and then that longing for happiness always remains at the back foot.

So after thinking and observing hard, I have come to a conclusion that happiness is a state of mind, the more contented you are, the happier you are… gratitude is the magic stick of happiness.

For me particularly, I have 5 things that ensure me of my happiness and well-being and they are:-

Value your relationships

I have always felt that the highest levels of happiness are always found with the most stable, longest and most contented relationships. Fly as much as you want, explore as many people as you want but at least you will always end up frustrated with your relationships because of the instability. It’s a well-known fact that people with stable relationships always end up better than unstable ones. Think hard before starting one but once in, never look back. And I know as long as I value my relationships with my loved ones, there is nothing to look for...love in any form is the essence of living.

Express Yourself

Singing aloud, talking to a stranger, raising your hand to someone are all indicators of a happy well-being. The more outgoing we are, the happier we feel. Extrovert people are always good at managing their stress level…. they come out quickly from every difficulty. The more you  express yourself, the more clear and stable your relationships will be.

Spend money for others

I have practically observed it, the more you spend on others, and the more you get it for yourself. Do note whenever you share your money with others; you will be much happier at the end of the day. It doesn’t matter how much you spent but what boost the spirit is, how you spend it.

Focus on the positive

The more we think on the positive side of our life, the more satisfied we feel with ourselves. There are so many things to look for and love to..we all are blessed with something better , we just need an eye to look for that blessing and feel gratitude instead of complaining.

Love yourself

I have always believed that I can love and respect other human beings only when I love and respect myself.. We all should possess a healthy self-image… and this is the most important part of happiness… if you can’t be happy with your own self, just forget that any other person can make you happy….

Can’t say about others but I know for me at least these four points constitute my happiness for sure n for many of you too J

Stay healthy and happy and cherish everything that you have because somewhere there is definitely someone who lacks what you have. There is no one in this world who has nothing to love for.... we all have a fair amount of things we want, what we need is just an eye to look for that thing and be grateful for it.

May your life be always full of love and good health and you all smiles throughout your life.

Regards

Kiran