Recent gang rape
aroused so much of a gender war in our nation, though I fully condemn that brutal,
heinous crime by some men. They let everyone of us down, as a nation we feel ashamed
of such acts happening in our nation. Protests are genuine and strong demand
for new laws and speedy trials of cases are all very important at this point of
time.
Though a lot has
been said about men and women , news channels are full of debates on this
gender discrimination but what surprised me the most or say wat saddened
me is the way whole male fraternity is
condemned….slogans like “ teach your son how to behave” or “ men disrespect
women” “ women are not slaves “ and all are not at all appealable to me… why
the hell we are saying it for every men…I totally agree that we have crores of cases where women were being harassed and
threatened by men but still I will say every men is not the same, we also have
brothers and fathers at home who also comes in the same fraternity……I am amazed
to hear from young girls that “ye sabhi ladke aise hi hote hai” “hum
inke gulam nahi hai” n all…..who the hell told us that we the women are slaves of anybody?
Why the hell we have made so much of chaos over this male n female
issue? The image that’s been going out from our recnts debates is making a very
wrong impact in the mind of girls……believe me
we are not someone who should try to be as equal to men……..why we need
to…..see as a women I dnt think anytym in my life I felt that I should be a men
or I am inferior or anything,,,,,,,we are women and we are proud of
that,,,,,,,men and women are two separate identities and it will be unfair for
either one to emulate the other one……men can never be women n women can never
be men…. infact I strongly go with the
quote that says “women who strive to be equal to men lose their ambition”
Society is made up
of both the genders,,no one can survive without other. Both require each other
for a happy balanced life…every religion has accepted the institution of
marriage as a strongest pillar. We call couples two bodies one soul…. N I
believe that from every human being there rises a light that reaches straight
to heaven and when two souls that are destined to be together find each other,
the streams of light flow together and a single brighter light goes forth from
that united being.
I get scared to
just think of the kind of mentality we are growing in our children,,,so much
hatred for the opposite sex....men need
to understand that women wants to be loved not raped…without women no
men can survive, they are your partners not your slave, so as women, we need to
understand that not every men is same.
We need love more
than this hatred for each other.. from the past so many days I am hearing so
many opinons of both the sexes for each other,,,,some says women are destined
to be a housewife , she should cook , wash clothes n do household wrk whereas
men are
destined to work ,to look after his wife and family…..i just don’t
understand the basic mentality behind such talks……. It seems there is a scorecard
for both husband and wife……when will we understand that in relationships there
is no scorecard ,we do little things for each other to make the other’s life
easier. If I cook ,or do laundry for family its not because its my work but
because of love I do it all , similarly if a husband take his wife for
shopping, of if he drive for her its not coz its his job but because he loves
her. They do all such things for each other in order to make other’s life
easier ……..I always believe if you think of all such work as a helping the
person you love ,you don’t become annoyed with doing the laundry or cookin or
any task, because you are doing it out of love.
Its just make me
sad whenever I hear from young girls like why will I cook or do laundry? Cant
the guy do it? Or young men saying…cooking food or ironing is not my wtk, grl
will do it……dnt knw how n when our daily work divided into this gender game……its
just love that matters……no one is high and no one is low...both the sexes are
equal and one can’t emulate other,….there is no competition,,,,,, there should be
no hatred,it’s just love that need to be shared …….give respect to each other
and kindly think differently. Change
your orthodox mentality and that fake pride of being a boy or girl…..we are
here to live together , we have to move together in life with hand in hand and
love in our heart <3 o:p="o:p">
Here’s my wish for
all of us
May god bring us
together in heart and mind as well as body,
Remove from us the
temptation to criticize or be cruel
May we not be tempeted
by fantasises and projections
May god guide us
in the ways of holiness and save us from darkness.
Love
Kiran
