that disturbing time

While writing this blog I am smiling somewhere because I the last one week it was a hell of drama for me..it’s a human nature I feel that there are some days when you have no control over your thoughts and activities. Or say you yourself surrender urself onto the circumstances….no matter how much positive you are for your life but still there comes a moment when everything seems so dark ,,,well  it happened with me n I am sure it must have happened with you all too….

I was like completely confused or say shattered for my life, it was like if u know my life is going away from my domination and someone else is running it. I don’t know what happened but  it was a hell of time…n today  in the morning Itself while speaking to one of my very close friend I found myself back in my real world. The original kiran who know what she needs to do n of course who live her life on her own terms.

 

This small blog is to all those beautiful people who often come in such tricky situations. At that particular time one don’t need to listen to long lectures from people. They just need to be heard,,,nothing else….and those who listen to them are their true soul mates or say friends.

We are the best and only best happens with us.so, no matter how much in confusion you are, take your time ,relax ,cry if u want and then come back with equal strength and love.  

And remember , if you are in love with yourselves ,thousands of people will fall in love with you. But if you are distressed, many will come to solace you but its only and only you who can change the worst situation into the best one…..

Stay happy and stay cheerful n do let these stressful moments to come , they actually make you more stronger and better person from inside.. n ofcourse they teach u a lot about life’s craziest happenings..lol

 n yup make sure if any of you who is reading this blog (I hope someone reads) come across such distressful tym,,,I am all free to listen…earlier I used to just gave pravachans but now I knw sometimes u just need to be heard ,nothing else……..:-)

 

Loads of love to all

 

Kiran.

 

those birthdays at school

Wow it’s my birthday today n finally I have successfully completed 23 years,,,,,huh  long long years, it seems budhapa nazdik hai.:-; .lol.

Well No matter how much we grow or how much old we are , childhood days are worth remembering. That craze of being a birthday girl, that imagination to see urself standing in front of the class with a packet full f toffees in hands, and all clapping and singing the famous b’day song for u ,,,,,,wow, superstar feeling.:-D

 

Now we all have cell phone so that exicetment of "who will  remember my birthday"  is slightly diminished. Facebook gives notification on many days before, we  have alarm clocks which keeps us informed on the particular day that who’s bday it is today……..but in those days, b’day was a day of testing the best friend, jinhone dekhte hi wosh kiy vo friends aur jinhe yad ni vo ainwee noraml classmates…….i remember in childhood I had friend named shilpa, once she forgets my birthday nd god knows how much she pleaded for sorry but I was like a dictator, I said  “ atti batti, sau saal ki ktti” ,,,,,,lol… i used to took seconds to break the relation and then within seconds kaati ko kaat dete the,,,,,,"katti juthi",.birthday used to be a day of  full on masti,  in short on the top wali  feeling ko pure din carry krna,,,,To  give two tofees to every student but to special ones, I mean close friends , unko do ki jagah 4 tofees dena.ha ha……here's this beautiful vodafone add that reminds me that time.......have a look....:-D

 

how I am missing all those days,,,,, how much innocence we used to have that time…treat naam ka koi shabad bhi hota hai ye to pta b ni tha,,,,ha ha . n now even a 2 year old knows whats called treat and gift,,,,,mere liye to bday k din toffee ka pkt mil jaye school maibaantne ko vahi bday hota tha…….. ha ha , time has changed so as we but still those special days can never be forgotten…..

Well thanks to my br0ther “Deepak bhardwaj” for reminding me all such days.....lol ,can’t express how much happy I am just to remind all those school days  that i am constantly smilng  writng this post,,,,,,

 

 

Will miss forever those beautiful days. Thanks to god and parents who gave us this opportunity to enjoy that school life. Must admit this , school friends are the  best friends one can have,,,,,though later in college ,in office we came in contact with so many people. Get close to certain people…but yet those school buddies are the best of all ……:-D

To all my  school friends who are on facebook  or not,  my school kendriya vidya ,kasauli n ofcourse saraswati niketan……..i rember you all…..

For all those who has similar feelings can write a reply …….

N Yup for all my friends( school tym, college tym, ofc wale, travelling lk time milne wale, camp wale ya SSB wale) BIG big thanks to all of u for wishing me on my birthday and to make this day a special one.

 

Love

Kiran.

our reaction matters a lot

Life is presenting every person and circumstance to us so that we can choose what we love and what we don’t love. When we react to anything, we are reacting with our feelings and as we do we are choosing it! Our reaction, whether good or bad, sticks it with us. I am writing all this because yesterday I was chatting with my friend and he very surprisingly asked me, from where I get all these good talks and philosophies. Don’t I ever feel sad?? He further said that he don’t know whether whatever I say is correct or not but still for a minute these talks make him feel good. And the reason behind it I feel is the positivity. When we speak positively, it brings positive result with it. The law of attraction and repulsion works very well in our lives. Whatever u give, u gets back.

I was a damn moody earlier(thodi bahut abhi b hun) , my mood used to swing like roller coaster, sometimes happy, sometimes sad  but now something is changed in me though now also,  I do feel sad and  frustrated  sometimes when things don’t go my way, or when I have an altercation with my muma (which happens often. lol)  or with anyone(very seldom) but as soon I get angry and react, within seconds I don’t know  how but all my anger get dissolved  and I  feel better and happy again or  I start cuddling with the one I had the brawl. this instant change(my mom found it mysterious)  in my mood  often  lead to a dialogue which she often say to me "pta ni kaunsa bhoot  sawar hota hai tujme thode daer k liye.,,ek minute mai fool aur ek minute mai kaanta”  well she is mother and hence, she forgets everything but many cannot (including me) . We are humans and we can’t bear a single criticism, arguments from anyone (same with me) , most of the relations break just because of our overreaction on certain things.

 I have found that when   a person says or does something and we find ourselves upset, offended or angry, do your best to change the negative reaction right away. Simply being aware that you have reacted negatively takes the power out of the negative feelings immediately and can even stop them. but if we feel as though the negative feelings have a grip on us, it’s best to walk away and spend a couple of minutes looking for the things we love, one after other until we feel much better, I do the same like listening to my favorite music ,imagining the things I  love or doing something I love. We can also think about the things we love in the person who upsets us, this might be challenging but if we can do it, it is the fastest way to feel better. It’s also the fastest way to become the master of your feelings! And believe me this works.

 

A man who is master of himself can end a sorrow as he can invent a pleasure. We should not be at the mercy of our emotions. We should use them, to enjoy them and to dominate them. Remember friends We can change any negative situation in our life, but we can’t change it with bad feelings. We have to react differently to the situation because if we keep reacting negatively, our bad feelings will magnify and multiply the negativity. Whereas when we give good feelings, the positivity magnifies and multiplies.

With all the good feelings I wish each one of u find ur way and  whenever anyone offends u I am sure u will try to raise ur soul so high that the offense cannot reach it..and attract as much positivity in your life as u can.

 

Be loving and love will follow u everywhere.

 

Regards

Kiran.

 

people who made difference

“At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each one of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us”  :-ALBERT SCHWEITZER

Whenever I read these lines by Albert schwintzer, the Noble peace prize winner and a wonderful philosopher I always think that everyone of us has received help, support or guidance from other people at particular times in our life when we needed it most. Sometimes another person alters the course of our life through their encouragement, guidance or just being there at the right time. And then life goes on, and we tend to forget those times when one person touched us or changed our life. Sometimes we don’t even realize the impact a person had until well into the future, when we look back in our life and realize that a particular person was pivotal in magically changing the direction of our life for better.

The person may have been a teacher or coach, an uncle or aunt, sibling, grandparent, or any family member or friend. They may have been the person who introduced us to our current partner or to a particular interest that became one of our greatest passions. May be they are someone we didn’t even know and they appeared in our life very briefly, performing a random act of kindness that touched us to the core.

My mother gave me my love for spirituality, she is the one who introduced me to the world of purity, she disciplined me with a steel hand to say thank you, to help others, to feel the emotions of others. I am always grateful to her for the huge influence she has on the course of my life.

Whereas my father introduced me to the world of responsibilities, he always insisted me to do my work on my own,  from the early childhood he gave me many opportunities to find myself, to understand what life is all about and how to live well in the life,,,,

So there are numerous people apart from parents and sibling who teaches us a lot, I would like to thank each and every person who have been in my life as I have learned something from each of them……i am full of gratitude to all my friends, relatives for all their sweet and bitter words coz their admiration or criticism   have impacted on my life for better.

I just learned it today that we should “Always spare some time to thanks all such people once in day that once lighted the flame within us” 

i did it,,,now its your turn........:-))

Love

Kiran

dreams and goals

As life develops, many of us have an urge to focus on the deeper issues—our dreams and goals, and our emotional and spiritual development. When this happens, life gradually becomes more about meaning and satisfaction and less about obligations and accomplishments. As we get mature, we focus on living the life we always wanted to live, tempered by the wisdom we have gained through our experiences.

I have learned many things about myself throughout this life. I now know how you deal with work, with financial decisions, with family, friends and with my relationships. But how much attention we have paid to our relationship with our own self? To make our dreams come true, we must turn within to discover what will make us happy.

To me, this deeper look at life is like moving from black and white to color, everything is brighter, more beautiful, and even a little strange.
This new palette of more colors, deeper responses to life, and more intimate knowledge of myself gives me an opportunity to re-create myself, to be and do all the things I’ve always dreamed of. If you allow yourself to dream, to aspire, you will begin to plan, and once you have a plan, you can begin taking steps to make it real.

“Path of life is always a path of mystery. Learning something means coming into contact with a world of which we know nothing in order to learn, we must be humble”. I have always believed that whatever happens, happens for your good and for me it always went the same,,,never in my life I think I doubted on my dreams or on my capabilities of achieving it, I know each one of us have this power to be the creator of our own destiny , always feel the presence and blessings of that almighty.

Everything in the universe has life, if u can feel it then u must always try to stay in contact with that life, it. During my walks, I have always observed it that nature understands our language, waterfalls, mountains and forest are all places where the spirits of earth tend to play and laugh and speak to us. There is so much love and happiness all around us……just to feel it and believe in it makes all our dreams a reality….this profound nature always gives hope for something better.

 I understand now that this faith in nature must come from our hearts... the sincerity... the core to everything we do... not just by saying it. We have to really feel it. I don’t feel sad when I easily got tears in my eyes... the tears always come whenever I feel touched by the beauty surrounding me or the kindness or wonderful things that happened to me. Teeny weeny small things that I do for my family or friends are great blessings for me and my each day is like a new fulfilling day for me...

Just feel the good and have the good. All your dreams will surely come true,it’s on the way and very soon u will get the good news….

Always recite this beautiful poem that i have read in one the paul cohelo's book ,

“I see skies of blue……clouds of white,

Bright blessed days..dark scared nights

And I think to myself-

What a wonderful world”

"lord, give us the humility to ask for what we need, because no desire is vain and no request is futile"

Love

Kiran

my finding on life

“Life” is a wonderful four letter word which connect us from our own selves, there are so many philosophies attached with this life, different people have different opinions.

Isn’t it amazing that even though our whole life revolves around this life only still we don’t even know what exactly this whole life is all about?..

I am sure each one of u has/have ur own definitions on life but what I have understood in all these years is, it is a beautiful learning experience, the more u live it, The more u get to know about it. The main purpose of this life is to enjoy the maximum and reveals the mysteries of life, the lessons that I have learned over the past years were meant to be shared with others, I have read about the law of attraction, the power and the magic and I am indeed very happy to say that all the philosophies written on these books are actually true, I have experienced them. I have seen it in my own life………the more u feel satisfied and content ,the more u attract it, when u feel thankful to god for having so much, it actually adds up your happiness, whereas when u feel low or disappointed over money or something, u end up attracting the same negativity which result in more disappointments.

I have understood that there is always a reason for everything, perhaps at the same moment that an event occurs we have neither the insight nor the foresight to comprehend the reason, but with time and patience, it will come to light. Many times I have gone through such situations where initially I was disappointed over my failures but with time everything became clear. I now understand that there is always something good behind everything. So no matter how worse may be the  situation is, it’s always for our good, bcoz u learn a lot with all these situations which ultimately results in making u a better, more stronger person, and sooner or later u get paid for that,,,

I am a strong believer of karmas , and I know the one who believe in the power of his karmas always end up  having satisfactory life, coz he know, his gud karma’s will bring him good fortune.

For me the important part of this life is to know the art of living…..and in my opinion the art of living is to Be happy in every situation, take everything as a learning experience, whether gud or bad,, hope for the better and always believe in the almighty coz he never do wrong to gud souls, believe in ur karmas.do good u will always have gud. Be happy and let other also remain happy. Greet ever one with love and u will attract love…and always thank god for giving so much to us”

the simple touchness

If we perceive with an open mind, every human being has some good quality which we can emulate with benefit to ourselves.

Over the past 3 years, I have had the privilege of meeting or getting to know a number of distinguished men and women through books. In each, I have found a touch of greatness and this led me to search for the secret of their distinction in the context of their lives and times. I have learnt something from each one of those who have wrote those books or whose stories got published in it. some quality in their lives or a sentence or two which I often quote from them has helped me to enrich and heighten my own life ,they have helped me at crucial moments.

Since morning I am reading a book,”a touch of greatness” by R.M LALA..i have finished some 18 stories by now but felt an urge to write down what I feel.in all these years, by reading all such books and experiencing ltl –ltl things in my life I have found that ,the most beautiful thing in this whole world is to touch someone’s heart” our simple hello can make someone’s day. our simple “how r u” can prove to be a healer for someone alone. No matter what ur designation is or d amount of bank balance u have, at one point of tym we all need someone who can boost us, or simply listens to us.

I read about AZIM premzi, Narayan murthy n many more, and its wonderful to know that each one of them has described their mother as the one who touched their life by listening to them or by supporting them. They were simple ladies who looked after their homes and kids, not even much educated but their biggest contribution is their touchiness. Have u ever thought why people always talk much about their mothers than fathers,,,it just because in life it doesn’t matter who gives u materialistic possessions. What matters most is the person who consoles u during your tough times, or who listens to you, who touch ur heat when u feel wounded…

I often think Will this generation of kids have the same attachment with their mothers as earlier it used to be…do mothers have enough time to think about his son or husband? In this race of achieving the status symbol, or having a good standard of living, we have let our relationships suffer. In order to give our family a better life, we are actually ruining our today’s simple pleasures. Have u ever imagined in a run of having a good future and a good standard of living, we have forgot that for whom we want to acquire all this? For the one with whom we rarely find tym to talk, cuddle and play? Or with the one who we call our soul mate but its been around a month that we didn’t even asked him how he/she is? Do we have so much tym today to just sit n talk to someone who is alone? Then how can we touch someone’s heart?

I read these beautiful lines in rashmi bandsal’s book

“The bank balance we have will remain here on earth when we depart, only our karmas will carry forward” So no matter what your problem in life is. Spare a moment for someone else,

, I say, forget about someone else, just spare a tym for ur own self, for ur family.if we have a loving companion n family, money will come happily…but if we don’t have beautiful relations then no amount of money and luxury will give us happiness.

I always thank god for all that he has given to me, problems have always resulted in making me a stronger person,, each failure has made me more humble n each happiness has aroused that feeling of gratitude to him for all the bliss. Life simple pleasures are worth it…..live it

So no matter where u r and what u do, make sure during our routine work, we find time to greet and listen to our loved one’s n make everyone happy with our smiling face….:-D 

keep smiling always

with love

kiran

"proud to be a women"

Well finally my laptop is working again n I am happy that now I can again start writing on it,,,:-D,In the past several months I have read so many books ,,experienced so many things that I wanted to share with u all ,,Books have always played a special part in my life..they have always taught me various things..i have been traveling and meeting so many people through these books ..recently I read “chicken soup for women soul” n this book has touched my heart in a very special way……my mother has always taught me that we women are very special ,we have patience,simplicity,innocence n most important of all we have an indomitable spirit,,but this book has enabled me to read so many stories where I read about all the wonderful women who have lived all their lives with all these qualities...

sometimes I really get surprised when I listen to same people saying.....it’s a curse to be a women,,women have to bear a lot,they have to sacrifice n bla bla….whereas I see this womanhood a blessing from god,,,,,how fortunatete we are to be a women,,,,we are the makers,the creators,,,we live so many relations in one life,,,we are daughters,sisters,lovers,mothers ,,each relation that we form is deeply connected to us,,,we are emotional ,,we feel each n every thing with that emotional bond…we are the one who can reshape anything ,,we make the home,,we fill the family….i remember once my mother said to me that “its always in the hand of a girl to break or to make a home” n now I feel how true these lines were,,,,

We get the opportunity to live in two homes…we get two mothers,two fathers,so many brothers n sisters all throughout our life,,just imagine what a wonderful experience it is to get birth somewhere else n to die at another,to live with your mother n father for some years n then suddenly go to another home,entirely different, and to live rest of the life with those new relations,,,,its one of the best things that happens with girls.. The most thrilling experience in this whole life is to give birth to an another soul,,a new body,,for me it’s a miracle ,,,,,it’s a special gift that god has only given to women, no man can ever experience that feeling of carrying a new life with ur body for long nine months,,,how fortunate we women are to have all such enriching experience…yet we never understand our true self….the most unfortunate part of many women life is to not understand what exactly her womanhood means..its always in our hands what we want to consider ourselves,,,,,,,,a special one or a cursed one…..

Just love yourseld first and everything else falls into line .you really have to love yourself to get anything donee in this world..i know all women go through periods in their lives when numerous demands are placed on them-family,work,spouse ,children etc but,,it is important indeed necessary ti step back and reevaluate one’s priorities to reflect on one’s mission in life,,,,,for it is only in nurturing one’s soul that one can nurture,take care of another,,,,,,,,

For all the special women ,,,,,,,who are proud to be a part of this womanhood,,,there is only one line to us all…”we are the queens,we have to owm our power and our own glory” I am ending this blog with the lyrics of wonderful grammy award winning song by billy joel…..

“ don’t go changing, To try n please me,,,,, I love u just the way u are.”

Regards

Kiran bhardwaj