Are we heading to Mars?

Every Indian is feeling proud as India is aiming to join the world's deep-space pioneers with a journey to Mars that begins this week and costs $73 million or Rs. 450 crores. Indeed that was a day that has filled every Indian’s heart with pride. Just in a span of 64 years we have come so far. With the successfully test fires of 5000 km range Agni-V ICBM  in April 2012 to Mangalyan  in 2013, from metros to Akash tablets India is constantly growing in every field. Having a car or mobile is no more a dream, for common man, we have grown so much in technology. India is the fastest growing economy with the world class infrastructure being built in every city of India. indeed there is so much in India that we feel proud of……just 64 years and here are we with full of achievements.

But wait….are we really heading towards the right path????? A country is made and known by its people. No doubt in this era of globalization, it’s very important for a country to be technically and financially sound. Defense matters has to be taken seriously, for the upliftment of energy resources and for our security it’s important to go for nuclear missiles test and so on….but in this fast growing development what we are forgetting is our common man….. What purpose a large building or any space project will solve for a person who is unable to feed his children?  What’s the use of all these express highways or metros for a person who can’t even afford to travel in bus because of rising fares?  

 

Answer is simple…. If any of our citizen sleeps with hunger,, all these developments are of no value. First and foremost duty of each politicians or anyone in policy making is to stabilize the current rising prices of food items because Tv, mobiles can’t feed a person, its food which will enable a man to use these items later.

Baisc amenities of a common man need to be fulfilled more than anything else. Food, shelter & education is every man’s right. Firstly achieve this task so that every Indian will proudly claim with delight that Yes, we are heading to mars…:-)

with love,
Kiran

from my diary 05/11/13

Strange but true #

"we often forget to care for those people who respond to us immediately, paid attention to our minute talks or sent msgs, who even reply for the frivolous forwarded mails dat we sent to them whereas we keep on caring for people who often neglect such small things " our life is beautiful not because of those people who told us that they care but because of  those who showed their care and attention toward us by making efforts. They waited for us, complimented us for small small things , scolded us many times but more than anything they truly cared for what we are up to,  but unfortunately  Many a times such people go unnoticed. we have no idea how much space their little little acts have made in our heart for them until we loose them. Our parents ranks the first in this list  and rest it varies  from our siblings to neighbors , to  friends to colleagues & so on…

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So before they slip away try to find them, know them, cherish them, love them and always be there for them because they are the  real  ones who loved u unconditionally and who have made you what you are today :-)

 

 we all are blessed with such people in our lives , its just that some people acknowledge them well in time & some not. Find out where you stand...:-)

with Love,

Kiran

Nation secular but are we?

Right from our childhood we all have been taught that we are a secular nation. A country which treats all its citizens equally irrespective of his caste, creed, race, religion and color. And it’s all true too, our Govt. policies, laws are equal for everyone, in fact it would be no wrong if I say that our schemes are much better for our minority groups. This nation has never discriminated anyone but what we are giving this nation in return??? Our hatred? Killing its children in the name of community??  Don’t u think being a part of India, all its people , no matter from which religion they belong, are our brothers and sisters? Aren’t we a family??

This nation has been wounded many times by external terror groups , thousands of our people have died in those attacks but still this nation came out of it and offered its help to everyone in need because its people stood united, They were all together at that hard time. But what this nation should do when its own very people start killing each other? Supporting one result in agitating other. This country is in a dilemma and we the people are responsible for it.

A boy teased a girl, her brothers opposed to it and went to talk to the guy and in return a furious mob killed them just in the name of community? Are we all sick? How can one relate such incidents with religion and community? We all have sisters, mothers and daughter’s at home and anyone will oppose such activity if it happens with them.  I don’t understand from where the hell came community in it???

Youngsters are the future of this nation and its important for them to understand these things in a broader way. Everyone has the human right to freedom of religion and belief. But often religion and belief can be used as grounds for discrimination and as weapons of division and hate. Religion, as is often forgotten by those without religion, has its roots in compassion, reciprocity, charity and peace-building. But religion, like political ideology, can also have its dark side in the form of hate, exclusion and fanaticism. As a nation, as an individual, we need to make sure that this does not happen with us.

The world is changing. India is changing. The demographic, social, economic, cultural, political and ecological facts scream this at us, every day.

If we are to have a peaceful, respectful future, then all of us must learn to make a leap of faith and trust.

Religion has, and will, have a critical role in doing this. But it will be the religious voices of love and acceptance that will contribute to a right and Bright future.

 

As u have read it till now, make sure you read this too http://epaper.bhaskar.com/detail/?id=322113&boxid=9923937281&ch=cph&map=map&currentTab=tabs-1&pagedate=09/10/2013&editioncode=186&pageno=9&view=image

May love and peace prevail in everyone’s life.

Love

Kiran Bhardwaj

"parents are a true blessing"

“One of the greatest titles in the world is parents, and one of the biggest blessings in the world is to have parents to call Mom and Dad”

If there is anyone in this world, to whom we can fearlessly go, cry, tell our problems to or who never judge us are indeed our parents. They are one who brought us in life, who taught us, made us capable of what we are today. Indeed many of us are aware of all these things there’s nothing new in it but what let me down or make me sad is to see that even after knowing all these things we often neglect our parents in old age.

I have seen many old couples who live all alone despite having so many sons or daughters. It’s not like that they can’t live on their own but what kills them is their loneliness. Our parents have been with us at every step of our way. We often say that for a better job we have to go out and hence it’s hard for us to stick to our parents but do we ever think that how hard it was for them to leave their comfort and come to cities just because of our studies. They compromised with ltl ltl things so that we get a good education. It was not easy for them too.. Imagine all the trouble we gave them starting with our non-stop crying in infancy, to changing our diapers all the time and now when our parents try to speak to us, we found that annoying or unwanted talk. At the age of two do u remember how much we used to tire our mother because she has to constantly run behind us for food. But later when our parents don’t eat, do we run behind them the same. In fact some of us don’t even try to ask them again for it. How can we forget those times when we used to  tore up the library books, our unending fights with our brothers& sisters while playing hide and seek or cricket,  What really surprises me is the way our lives has been changed, we are so good at defending our self but not for understanding others. Parents start out as caregivers but later become friends. Soon in their old age they need a companion, someone who will look at the world in their point of view, relax, sit, and listen. We need to learn that our parents won’t ask us for their needs, we need to start looking for as to what they need.  Taking care of our parents is a blessing to be cherished for not a duty to perform. In fact lucky are those who got this chance to present something to their parents.

Sometimes a simple gesture makes a big room in your heart.. Met a very nice old man in the morning today at hospital where my nana ji is admitted.  Just loved the innocence that these old age people carry with themselves.  Just can’t get over with the childish smile these people have on their faces. sometimes  I thank these people coz somewhere I get inspired watching them and my heart get flooded with so much love and emotions which helps me to become a better person day by day..

 Love is the fastest healer. It can heal anything.  We can’t even imagine how a simple smile of our’s, a nice talk and a soft touch can do miracles for the other person. The best thing that we can do for a sick person is to just tell them how much they mean to us in our lives. Let love and be loved J

 We owe it to the ones who gave us life and helped us flourish into the people we are now today.

With Love

Kiran Bhardwaj

 

 

For the one in my memory

There are moments when something very much unexpected happens in your life, something that you have never even imagined, something that halts your life for minutes and you need time to get out of that shock.

Death comes by two ways. One is when you have no control over it, it happens mostly because of illness, accidents or by some genuine natural way but the second one is when you yourself choose to take away your life…… The most harsh and daunting decision of one’s life- and of course the most difficult one too.. I don’t have a slightest of idea as like what might have been the reasons behind such suicides, what exactly went on person’s mind the moment they plan to execute it??  But whatever it may be… steps like this should never be taken in any way…

I am dedicating this blog to all the girls and boys of my age and most importantly this blog is in remembrance to one of the finest girls I have met in my life,  she was nice, smart, lovable, decent, sensible , patient , beautiful , jovial and so on. I have never seen any flaw in her, always loving and caring who got married just a few months back and who left us just a day before.

Marriage is a beautiful institution where two people join hands and choose to stay together all their lives. For me it’s the most sacred relationship where  two people surrender themselves to one another,  both come into relationship with thousands of dreams in eyes , so many aspirations and love. It’s the most difficult as well as the most important decision of one’s life to choose someone who can complete him/her.

Acc to me the full meaning of marital commitment is being the most important person to someone and having someone as your most important person. Most of us always want our lives to be cherished and funny as it has always been when we were single, we expect the same thing when we get mingle but the moment that very special person of our life starts caring, asking or demands time from us, that very relationship starts pinching us down. Don’t take me wrong but I guess there are a 50% couples who comes in relationship without even has a slightest of idea that being in the relationship means, sharing your life with someone else.  And by sharing I mean, sharing of our time, our family, our love and everything.  Everyone wants love but no one wants the responsibilities attached to it. Marriage is a responsibility towards each other, when we get committed to someone, we need to understand that from now on that person is a part of our life, and directly or indirectly every act of ours will affect our partner’s life so we can’t think only for our self .  In relationships we are no longer a single bird, we are paired and hence we have to think in that way.

I just have one thing to say to everyone out here that please don’t marry until you are not ready to accept the responsibilities attached with marriage, don’t spoil anyone’s life just for a few minutes of pleasure or for your parent’s happiness. Marry only when you are ready to commit yourself to one single soul and are ready to share everything with him/ her, otherwise be single and enjoy as much as you want in your own way. No one will interfere in your life if you don’t wish to. If you are fully ready to accept someone’s presence in your life then only commit yourself . Everyone is someone’s dream and hence if she/he is not the one of your dreams, then might be there is someone at other side who desperately waits n wants him/her.

This one  is  for boys, that remember a girl leaves her home and enters your home just with a faith that you will be there to look her up. I have my own brother unmarried, cousin going to get married next month, it’s for every male who is in my life in any form, brothers, friends or anyone, no matter how harsh may a situation gets, no matter how wrong your partner gets, tell her she is wrong, show your anger but still support her, be with her because you are the only one she is most intimate with, she trust u more than anyone in this world.

Life waits for no one, it's just go on and on, people become memories and we move on with our respective lives.

May God give us the patience; tolerance and understanding to run our lives in a smoother way. May we be blessed with this hard core fact of life that no matter how much we fly, roam , hurt, love , ditch , betrays someone during our good young days but ultimately in the end everything fades and then you will realize how important it is for us to have that most important person in our life.

As I was discussing with a friend of mine today that what matters in life is not our partner’s property, position or beauty but it’s always his/ her nature and good will that counts the most.

With love to all and especially to that beautiful jovial lady with whom I spent a lovely good time during my commuting hours.

You will always be remembered but I just wish, May u faced it in a more courageous way!!!!

Love

Kiran Bhardwaj

happiness

Aristotle once wrote that “happiness is a state of activity” in other words whether we are seeking lifelong satisfaction or a few moments of good cheer, we have got to move forward..

In a daily chit chat with my colleague in college bus, she asked ,” what constitutes happiness?  The thing which makes us happy some time back doesn’t give happiness to us now? Priorities change so as circumstances’? Well indeed she was right and was asking some very valid question’s, because we humans are like that only,  our happiness is never limited to certain things….it keeps on changing.

What can makes everyone happy? Is it money? Property? Different partners?  Solitude or what?? Sometimes my mind says if I will have it  ,I will be the happiest one, but then after attaining that certain goal, more new wishes and goals comes in between and then that longing for happiness always remains at the back foot.

So after thinking and observing hard, I have come to a conclusion that happiness is a state of mind, the more contented you are, the happier you are… gratitude is the magic stick of happiness.

For me particularly, I have 5 things that ensure me of my happiness and well-being and they are:-

Value your relationships

I have always felt that the highest levels of happiness are always found with the most stable, longest and most contented relationships. Fly as much as you want, explore as many people as you want but at least you will always end up frustrated with your relationships because of the instability. It’s a well-known fact that people with stable relationships always end up better than unstable ones. Think hard before starting one but once in, never look back. And I know as long as I value my relationships with my loved ones, there is nothing to look for...love in any form is the essence of living.

Express Yourself

Singing aloud, talking to a stranger, raising your hand to someone are all indicators of a happy well-being. The more outgoing we are, the happier we feel. Extrovert people are always good at managing their stress level…. they come out quickly from every difficulty. The more you  express yourself, the more clear and stable your relationships will be.

Spend money for others

I have practically observed it, the more you spend on others, and the more you get it for yourself. Do note whenever you share your money with others; you will be much happier at the end of the day. It doesn’t matter how much you spent but what boost the spirit is, how you spend it.

Focus on the positive

The more we think on the positive side of our life, the more satisfied we feel with ourselves. There are so many things to look for and love to..we all are blessed with something better , we just need an eye to look for that blessing and feel gratitude instead of complaining.

Love yourself

I have always believed that I can love and respect other human beings only when I love and respect myself.. We all should possess a healthy self-image… and this is the most important part of happiness… if you can’t be happy with your own self, just forget that any other person can make you happy….

Can’t say about others but I know for me at least these four points constitute my happiness for sure n for many of you too J

Stay healthy and happy and cherish everything that you have because somewhere there is definitely someone who lacks what you have. There is no one in this world who has nothing to love for.... we all have a fair amount of things we want, what we need is just an eye to look for that thing and be grateful for it.

May your life be always full of love and good health and you all smiles throughout your life.

Regards

Kiran

isn't its right??

Truth sometimes seems very far from reality; numerous times we get trapped in illusion because our thinking rests upon newspapers, television and radio. No doubt that 90% of the information we get from the media itself which I think has 70% credibility too but still we thinks on the basis of what we see and hear, but sometimes it's not necessary that whatever we hear or see is true.

Kashmir has always been a very sensitive topic to talk about. In fact I think I am no wrong if I say almost 90% of our population has a very firm and static opinion on the issue of Kashmir that it's an integral part of India and I too agree with it.  But just for a minute if you forget about the land Kashmir holds in and talk to people of Kashmir for what they want…. You will get a simply different answer which I am sure 90% of us hard core Indian fanatics will not agree with.  I am saying this all because I have experienced this rigidness in me on this particular Kashmir issue. I still remember a talk with my dear friends from Kashmir, Bilal. Tahir and Imran where I refused to go with every logic they gave me in favor of azaad Kashmir. But as yesterday  I was watching a documentary on Kashmir  by human rights commission, something triggers on me, it made me think of this from a different view and Now when I think deeply about it and  that particular talk with tahir ad bilal, I feel I did missed the humanity part in that talk, I listened to them but didn’t understand them, and the reason behind that I guess is our stubbornness on this issue. We always talk about Kashmir with our national pride attached to it but without human touch.

We don’t have even a slightest of idea of what they people go through, during my telephone conversation with Bilal ,I don't remember actually how many time I have heard him saying , “her jagah curfew hai didi, hum ghr pe hi band hai”.colleges /schools all  shut, no touch with the outside world, no newspapers and even  many times they are out of food too.  Have we ever thought about their freedom? How terrible it must be to all the time being watched and guarded by army jawans.

I am no way against India’s occupation over Kashmir. Even I know and agree that it's an integral part of India but what I mean is, try looking out in the hearts of the Kashmiri people for what they want? Remember no one wants to be murdered, or raped, everyone wants a secure, protected, happy democratic life. They very well know what's best for them.

With due respect to all the technicalities , and security issue over this particular place, what I say is we need to change our approach towards our people residing at that place, it's easy for us to say that people of Kashmir are same as us and enjoy democracy like we do,,,,,, but think  hard on it…… is it true??

We never know what happens to them during late night, we don’t know how many times they have been scared of bombs, curfew is pretty normal to them, and being watched and questioned is their normal routine….. No doubt for security reasons it’s all important but then on humanitarian grounds I don't know how much valid  it is to constantly be in spying...

I know speaking and writing on this will be of no use to them but I know those people have thousands of untold stories hidden in their hearts, they want to share it, but with whom? Because whoever they meet is as rigid as I was at that particular time. But now as I start knowing many of them more and more, I have started listening to their stories with more humanitarian ground than national pride, I now feel and understand their every talk and try to clear them as much as I can.

I can’t say about all but for those three  brothers of mine  from Kashmir whom I met in a  camp at Assam and particularly  Bilal the youngest one, I know they suffer a lot, they miss a lot of things that we are free to do with our day times. And I know many of them don’t even give a damn to India or Pakistan. They just want to live happily with no one’s dominance on them. This land, occupation, religion matters little to them, what matters is their loved one’s safety and happiness.

May this dispute get solved and people of Kashmir live happily with no one to spy on or special  guard them. May they enjoy as much freedom as we enjoy in our respective states. -)

love
kiran

 

 

 

lets introspect on women's day

As I was going through the newspapers today , many articles written in appreciation of women around the world caught my attention.. I really admire the way women have made their name in all spheres of life  but what really struck my mind was a beautiful article written by Chetan Bhagat in yesterday’s “Dainik Bhaskar”. He very politely urged women to stop blaming and ridiculing their own gender. And I strongly go with this statement. Not every problem of women starts with men.... It's not always men who  suppress women but sometimes its women too , yes  in fact it would be no wrong if I say that more than men we women suppress our gender cruelly…

It's always a female who runs a brothel, in most of the cases we have seen or heard that most of the time it's always a woman who compel their daughter in law for dowry or abortion… see when we say that behind every successful man there is always a woman, then there is equally a saying which says behind every wrong done by a man there is also a woman somewhere. Please don't take any of my remarks as anti women. I am a myself s a woman and I am proud of my being but what I want to say is somewhere down the line we women ourselves are the enemy of our own gender… how often we women compliment each other??  Don’t we ourself make sleazy remarks for a woman wearing a short dress ??  Do we not become so judgmental  that if someone is talking to a male friend, I guess we are the one who start gossiping about her first  than men…

Just imagine if we ourself don't respect the freedom of our gender how we can expect it from the other???

We women should understand that our power lies in our unity.. I can guarantee that the day when all women will respect and value the other women , we won’t need anyone to protect us. Lets ourselves be so strong that no one even dare to touch us or defame us.. There  is a beautiful saying that , it's only  a woman who  can  love you  in  many ways. She is kind and gentle. Let's be kind and gentle not only to our sons , or daughters or husband’s , let be equally kind and gentle to our own gender. Instead of competing , lets feel proud of other’s success.

And yes one more thing that I recently noticed in a movie named “MAAI” starter ASHA BHONsle,  while watching that movie , I experienced or say observed a totally different side of a woman which actually compelled me to ponder… though not anywhere in the movie it portrayed , in fact movie is all about a girl who take care of mother when his brother left her mother alone,,,, but what really pinched me is the role of daughter- in law in all this.. See, women are women, being kind and gentle Is in our inner nature then how can a woman have a different feeling for her own mother and her mother-in law? How can our feelings change so instantly?.. And vice versa…. We care for our own daughter but not for the one who has come to our home while leaving her own family?? Why so biased?? As a woman this particular incident shocked me and of course it let me have an introspection of myself.

Well  a lot has been said by me , and  believe me in no way I am disrespecting anyone its just that I think we women should introspect ourselves before blaming anyone for disrespecting us and should be united when it comes to demand justice.

I am Happy that Nirbhaya is  getting a  Stree Shakti award posthumously today,, very well deserved award but still I would be more happy if our govt rehabilitate all those women;  who are raped and in fact alive , and are  bound to live an unhappy life…

Neway I wish all you beautiful women’s a very Happy women's day  and of course I want to thank all those men too who love women’s in their life. I am so sure your life is the loveliest one..

And yup happy Womens’ day for me too, I am inspired to be inspired, and I know my worth as a woman ❤

 

With love

Kiran

Oh my lovely spam folder

I have always believed and often said this in my pravchans( that’s what my friends say for my advicesL) that this world is full of good people. And I can verify this above statement of mine by showing you all my spam folder. Yes in your mailbox you can see the genuine goodness of heart that still exists in this kalyugi duniya who is running behind this paisa, paisa n paisa……

Though I have seen this genuineness many times in my life but it’s just today that  I decided to write about this very kindness  so that u can also get to  know that how much reliable I am and how people ,even In  foreign countries trust me.J I received an e-mail from a gentleman called Adelle okins from Britain, the poor chap of an old rich businessman who has managed to accumulate a hundred million dollars in his account. Unfortunately the grand old Mr Okins died a week ago and greedy partners has been hounding master Okins , trying to get hold of money his father has hidden away. Now Mr Okins is so concerned about his safety that he wanted to transfer his father’s ill-gotten treasure, all hundred million dollars of it to a bank account in the India. Since he is surrounded by enemies, so, the only person he felt, he could trust is me,…yes me J so much reliable he thought I am to him, that he trusted a girl living in himachal Pradesh,  so far from Britain….:-) lol

His scheme is simple, he would be glad to wire all his money to my bank account with the understanding that I would, after he escapes from Britain, and give his money back. As remuneration for may effort, he would give me 10 percent of his hundred millions dollars.

Wow that sounds fascinating. Isn’t? lol needless to say, I was very flattered at this display of absolute trust from someone who had never met me and did not even know my name.  In fact I am flattered to all such offers( I guess more in hundreds now)  with the text of the letter being identical and having similar misspellings but from different people around the world.. I am really amazed how so many people in the world are so ready to part with 10 percent of their fortunes for almost nothing in return, except of cousre the privilege of transferring their money to my account. I have been even more amazed that all people, with nothing common between them, blindly trust me- humble, lovely me …ha ha

I guess now u all must have understood how much trust worthy I am…so in case anyone of you having any problem in keeping ur money safe, feel free to transfer that money to my account. See I have got international accreditation for that as well as i have international donors too…:-p:-p lol

N kindly don’t u dare to make me jealous by telling me that u people are also that much lucky to have got this international accreditation for reliability...coz mai ni chahti k mere jaisa fame n itne paise paiseo ki peshkash vo b free mai kisi aur ko ho…...;> ha ha ha….

love

“The supreme happiness of love is the conviction that we are loved”

Love is a beautiful feeling on which no one has any control, its just happens n happens without any reason,,,,these are some lines that I have often heard from my friends and family. Though I am still not so sure about it but what I have found or say have observed all over these years about love is what I want to write today …well this whole week is our love week I mean all the days are somewhere dedicate to this extra ordinary feelings called LOVE.

Though love is eternal and we can’t define it or divide it but still  for me Love is of so many types, I knw many of u might not agree with me but still for me at least I divide this love in so many parts, normal love which I define as a love between friends, cousins and relatives, special love (a ltl higher from normal) goes with our wonderful parents and siblings and then come the very common, extra ordinary love, the love for which many people often even forget their normal n special love,,,,and that is “LOVE FOR UR SOULMATE”

The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe is the discovery of another human being with whom one’s relationship has a glowing depth, beauty and joys as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is the most marvelous thing. It cannot be founded by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it, it is a sort of a divine incident.

I have utmost respect for this extraordinary feeling called love and no matter how much criticism or say havoc this love get from serials like “crime patrol or Gumraah( which is a reality though)  but still I have full faith in this magical power called love. Guys it’s a divine feeling, no one can ever force anyone to let in fall in love with the other, it’s a mutual consent.

For one human being to love another ; that is perhaps the most difficult of all our task ,the ultimate, the last test and proof ,the work for which all other work is nothing  but just a  preparation.

For those who are mingle , may your love grow more and more with each passing day J  and for those who are single , may you get your soul mates soon, just make sure you choose the right person for you and yup the greatest weakness of us humans is our hesitancy to tell other how much we love them , so  never lose any opportunity to confess your love as everyone has not that magical power to let u fall in love with her/him…so just go for and confess it……  

And as far as I am concerned Love has been very kind on me right from my childhood, I have always been loved by all, whether it’s my teachers, my neighbors, my friends, my seniors or anyone I have evr met. I have been extremely lucky to be loved by all of them .so in short my life is totally full with normal and special love., and I know, on a perfect time, it will be equally full with that extra ordinary LOVE tooJ

 

With loads of love

Kiran

this gender war

Recent gang rape aroused so much of a gender war in our nation, though I fully condemn that brutal, heinous crime by some men. They let everyone of us down, as a nation we feel ashamed of such acts happening in our nation. Protests are genuine and strong demand for new laws and speedy trials of cases are all very important at this point of time.

Though a lot has been said about men and women , news channels are full of debates on this gender discrimination but what surprised me the most or say wat saddened me   is the way whole male fraternity is condemned….slogans like “ teach your son how to behave” or “ men disrespect women” “ women are not slaves “ and all are not at all appealable to me… why the hell we are saying it for every men…I totally agree that we have crores of  cases where women were being harassed and threatened by men but still I will say every men is not the same, we also have brothers and fathers at home who also comes in the same fraternity……I am amazed to hear from young girls that “ye sabhi ladke aise hi hote hai”  “hum inke gulam nahi hai” n all…..who the hell  told us that we the women are slaves  of anybody?  Why the hell we have made so much of chaos over this male n female issue? The image that’s been going out from our recnts debates is making a very wrong impact in the mind of girls……believe me  we are not someone who should try to be as equal to men……..why we need to…..see as a women I dnt think anytym in my life I felt that I should be a men or I am inferior or anything,,,,,,,we are women and we are proud of that,,,,,,,men and women are two separate identities and it will be unfair for either one to emulate the other one……men can never be women n women can never be men…. infact I  strongly go with the quote that says “women who strive to be equal to men  lose their ambition”

Society is made up of both the genders,,no one can survive without other. Both require each other for a happy balanced life…every religion has accepted the institution of marriage as a strongest pillar. We call couples two bodies one soul…. N I believe that from every human being there rises a light that reaches straight to heaven and when two souls that are destined to be together find each other, the streams of light flow together and a single brighter light goes forth from that united being.

I get scared to just think of the kind of mentality we are growing in our children,,,so much hatred for the opposite sex....men need  to understand that women wants to be loved not raped…without women no men can survive, they are your partners not your slave, so as women, we need to understand that not every men is same.

We need love more than this hatred for each other.. from the past so many days I am hearing so many opinons of both the sexes for each other,,,,some says women are destined to be a housewife , she should cook , wash clothes n do household wrk whereas men  are  destined to work ,to look after his wife and family…..i just don’t understand the basic mentality behind such talks……. It seems there is a scorecard for both husband and wife……when will we understand that in relationships there is no scorecard ,we do little things for each other to make the other’s life easier. If I cook ,or do laundry for family its not because its my work but because of love I do it all , similarly if a husband take his wife for shopping, of if he drive for her its not coz its his job but because he loves her. They do all such things for each other in order to make other’s life easier ……..I always believe if you think of all such work as a helping the person you love ,you don’t become annoyed with doing the laundry or cookin or any task, because you are doing it out of love.

Its just make me sad whenever I hear from young girls like why will I cook or do laundry? Cant the guy do it? Or young men saying…cooking food or ironing is not my wtk, grl will do it……dnt knw how n when our daily work divided into this gender game……its just love that matters……no one is high and no one is low...both the sexes are equal and one can’t emulate other,….there is no competition,,,,,, there should be no hatred,it’s just love that need to be shared …….give respect to each other and kindly  think differently. Change your orthodox mentality and that fake pride of being a boy or girl…..we are here to live together , we have to move together in life with hand in hand and love in our heart <3 o:p="o:p">

 

Here’s my wish for all of us

May god bring us together in heart and mind as well as body,

Remove from us the temptation to criticize or be cruel

May we not be tempeted by fantasises and projections

May god guide us in the ways of holiness and save us from darkness.

 

Love

Kiran